How to Approach Women in Clothing Stores

Something that I've noticed while researching PUA, is that there is limited information about the details and techniques of game, in locations other than clubs, bars, coffee shops...ect. I feel that one place particularly, a place that many many men and women go to, has been somewhat neglected. This place is, the mall. For someone who's a little younger than most PUA's, I don't visit clubs regularly. I do however go to coffee shops and such, but the point is, many young people (and old) visit and spend significant time in the mall. Through my own personal experiences, I've developed what I humbly feel is good "mall game". The mall offers huge amounts of options when it comes to opening and closing, opportunities for DHV and DHV spikes, number closes, and bounces (harder to do, but obtainable). I haven't felt the need to try, but I think kiss closes and obviously f-closes are pretty difficult to obtain and are extremely unlikely. But if you're lucky.. who knows? So what I'm going to do is give you different examples and situations of how to open, how to do DHV spikes, and how to convey how interesting you are in a short amount of time. I'm going to focus on one type of approach, without a wing, but I'll give huge amounts of detail, and break down the pick up extremely. If people read and enjoy this blog, I'll put up more about different approaches and how to use your wing man in the mall. I'm also going to focus on clothing stores, but some of the same techniques can be applied to any store really in malls. If you want to know about technique in malls outside of clothing stores, just ask and I'll do my best to explain.

Here's why mall game is achievable for meeting a lot of attractive women. The places I tend to open a set are usually in clothing stores, like American Eagle, H&M, Abercrombie & Fitch, stuff like that. These stores almost always have young cute hired guns, who work as clerks or saleswomen. These stores also offer lots of young and cute women, who are just there shopping. These areas are generally target rich, and provide easy openers and conversation pieces. Because you are in a clothing store, it allows easy options when it comes to DHVing yourself, allowing you to use fashion or style as your main resource. If you do it right, it is very possible and very easy to obtain a number in less than 5-10 minutes. As I've said previously, KC's and FC's are very unlikely, but that goes without saying when performing most day game.

What I do and say when opening- (This works with both clerks and saleswomen, and girls who are just shopping) I'll go and I'll pick two different articles of clothing, such as two shirts, two jackets, two pairs of jeans.. ect. (It's really important to pick two options that both look good. If they both look good, it will make the target really think and imagine you wearing what you've picked out, and because of that, she'll become comfortable with you at a faster rate. This also shows that you have a good sense of fashion and style, and you'll immediately DHV yourself non-verbally. Men who have a good sense of fashion and style non-verbally convey that they have women in their life, and makes you more interesting than the AFC.) I’ll say, “Excuse me, I’m sorry to bother you, but I need a female opinion. I really like both of these, but can’t decide what I want. Which do you think would look better on me?” Use intense eye contact and rapport immediately, and ask her with your legs spread past shoulder width (cowboy stance), which will show your confidence and how comfortable you are with yourself. (Some PUA’s feel that apologizing to women is a DLV, but I think if you’re asking some stranger their opinions on the clothes you’ve picked out, it’s only polite. It’s not necessary for the hired guns in the stores, but if you want to seem polite go ahead.) Obviously she’ll take a moment to think, and as said before, she’ll really have to imagine you wearing both articles of clothing. If you’ve picked good articles of clothing out, this will DHV you, but she’ll also have to really look at you and your appearance, which is why when performing this opener you’ll have to already look good. Most PUA’s know that women enjoy being asked their opinions and this opener is indirect and non-threatening, and allows for a good first impression. This opener works with two sets and three sets as well, and works even better when they disagree. Let’s say you use this opener on a 3 set, after picking out a red shirt and blue shirt (For simplicities sake. Hopefully you’ll have much nicer clothes picked out.) and one girl says she likes the blue shirt, while the other two like the red shirt. The girl who says the blue shirt is a good option for the target, because you’ll be able to then neg her, and agree with her friends, who are ultimately the obstacles. Come back with something like, “Yeah I was totally leaning for the red shirt too. I don’t know about this one though (point to target, or touch her on her shoulder), her fashion sense seems a little off!”.Make sure you smile while saying this and laugh at the end. As most PUA’s know, the reaction to a neg should be laughter, not hurt feelings. You can then exchange names and thank them for their help. What I then do is tell them that I might come back again to ask about another option. I'll say something like, "Okay I think you're trustworthy about fashion I'm still not so sure about your friend. We'll see later on." This shows that you enjoyed their opinion as well as the brief exchange, and provides a funny neg to the target, as well as an indirect hint that you'll "see later on", meaning that you'll have another interaction with the target and the obstacles. Subconsciously, the target and the obstacles will be more comfortable with you during the second interaction. If she or they smile and say okay, ask her or them again in 5 minutes about another two options. If she gave you at least 3 IOIs (Indicators of Interest) during the first interaction, definitely ask her or them about another option. The IOI's I have gotten while using this opener have been, hair flips, huge smiles, laughter, and maybe some back and forth teasing. **A good way for kino escalation during this brief encounter (works really well with just one girl but can be applied to more than one) is to tell her, "I think I can trust your opinion, you seem to have a good fashion sense." Immediately comment on something she's wearing, like earrings, or a shirt. Say, "I really like your earrings (or shirt or whatever) by the way, here let me see.." While saying this reach for her earrings, which will give you the opportunity to kino with her ears, and fondle her neck some. If you comment on her shirt, you might mention that the texture is nice, and while doing this, touch the sleeves and rub it between your fingers, which allows you to also touch her shoulder. Now, because both the shoulder, ears, and neck are sexual and sensitive places, you have to seem confident, but completely non-threatening, so that she won't get creeped out and try to slap you and walk away. Luckily, this has yet to happen to me.

So let's summarize what you've done so far. I know I've given a lot of information and have used a lot of details, so let me clear up everything and make an outline of what you have thus accomplished.
Step 1) You picked out two fashionable articles of clothing, and approached either a girl or a group of girls, and asked their opinion on what would look better on you.
Step 2) You negged the target and agree with the obstacles. (If the entire group agrees, you might neg them all, a little more gently, which should still get a good reaction.) This is where formal introductions should be made.
Step 3) You thanked them and told them that you might come back to get another opinion, which you do again in about 5 minutes with another pair of stylish clothing. Hopefully you've negged and teased them a little, and have gotten IOIs. (From here you can return the items, or place them in one hand while you then use the other hand for kino escalation)
Step 4) You kino escalate and comment on something they're wearing simultaneously, and act confident.

This is where the short process comes to getting her number. Now, there are two ways to do this next process: direct or indirect. Both have worked, but going with the direct way often only works when you're only engaging one girl, not two or three. You can try being direct with a group, but it won't be as affective.
If doing the direct way, I would (after I've used kino escalation of course) say something like, "You know, you're really cute." I might then neg her by saying something like, "It's too bad I don't date blondes (If she is blonde. Name the hair color that she has.) She'll respond, but just say something like "I'm just kidding, you're still cute". (This is the push pull method which I extremely endorse. It's worked wonders for me. It's a natural way to flirt by insulting someone but then taking it back.) From there I would say something like, "You know I need to go meet up with my friends right now (I know this FTC is late in the game but it's purpose still applies here.), but give me your number and maybe we can meet and discuss fashion some more over lunch or something." It's important to smile when you say this, but still say it with intent and confidence, and don't ask her if she'll give you her number, but tell her to. **Only use the direct way if she has given you a good amount of IOIs and seems generally interested in you. She'll most likely give you her number, and then it's up to you if you actually buy what she picked out for you. I think it's a good idea to, but if you're not interested in spending too much money, pick out cool accessories, sun glasses, or hats that might be cheaper.
If doing the indirect way, which works better with sets of two or three, say something like, "You know, you guys are pretty cool, and I guess, overall I agree with your fashion sense (neg). My friend (Or you can say that I'm) is actually having a pool party (I stole this from the Pick Up Artist on VH1. You can say any type of party really.) this saturday. What's the best way to stay in contact with you guys?" This is non-threatening and shows that you're merely interested in them for their company and nothing sexual. They'll most likely give you their numbers but they might give you their email or something, which is fine. This is why I think direct works a little better, because it shows your confidence, that you're interested in her (in a sexual way), and it cuts out the "let's be friends" bull shit.

Although I didn't mention them, there are plenty of moments for actual DHV spikes using verbal means, such as DHV stories. A good example of that would be the gay scarf story. Basically say that while walking down the street, a guy started talking to you, and you had a fun conversation for about 5 minutes, but as you were walking away, he spanked your butt. Say, "Did you just spank my ass?!". And say that he said, "Yeah, aren't you gay?". Tell the girls you said, "No! What made you think that?!" Say he said it was because of the scarf you were wearing, which also works with a lot of accessories. Say "Man, I mean I like to leave the house looking good, but not THAT good!". The girls will probably laugh at you, and this DHV story can be used probably during the second time you ask for their opinions on some clothes you've picked out. Say this story with intent, and be somewhat animated, but not too high energy.

Anyways, I've given you the break down for a good and tried pick up to end ultimately with a number close. It has some variables and wild cards that you'll have to watch out for, such as shit tests, but hopefully you'll be able to think on your feet and get past them. Like I've said, this was only one type of approach that you can use with out your wing man. If this blog gets good reception then I'll put more up. My name is Danny Bevins and my PUA name is Dash, and although I'm young, I'm a pretty accomplished PUA (at least I think so :p). So tell me what you think, and if you agree or disagree, or would like to add anything. Keep your criticism (hopefully you won't have any lol) constructive and I'll talk to you later.
Thanks,
Dash