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How The Pickup Artist started to change my life.

A couple of months ago, I was on the verge of ending my life because I saw no meaning to it. I am alone, I have no friends, no one to talk to and no one to help me out with anything. I am 22 years old, and still a virgin. I looked at women and felt like they have it easy, most of them lost their virginity in high school, dated a lot of guys and make out with a lot of guys, and just go from one guy to another. I felt like they had all the power. I felt like beauty, money, etc. was what they were after in a man.

Then I found this show, and I was crying when I realized that I am not the only guy that is having these feelings, these problems. I mean, even Mystery felt the same way I did. Why can he do it, and not me? And right after I watched it, I made it my purpose to take my life and do something with it that will make me happy. I found David DeAngelo's material, and started working on myself very hard. I realized that women has it just as hard as men, if not worse. Especially the beautiful women. I found that they have way more competition than men do and it is a lot harder to find a potential man than it is for a man to find a potential woman. My whole perspective has changed. I walk in the mall and see at least 4 beautiful woman. How many men have you met that is a real man? Me, none.

From this Friday, I'm going to start recording, including the failed sets, that I approach by using Mystery's stuff. When I finally get this area of my life handled, I'm going to give everything, every trick and tips, and just give it away for free to help other men. I don't want anyone be where I've been.

Just by watching The Pickup Artist has started a snow ball effect. I hope that all men sees this show! And if ever I get the chance to meet the following people in person I would say:
To Mystery: (I would shake his hand and say) "You are a great inspiration to all the men out there. Thank you for all your hard work.
To Tara: "This world needs more women like you. Most women would rather diss a guy that 'doesn't get it' than helping them out."
To Madadore: "Men need to have more friends like you, to instead of competing with a friend, but rather enjoy life and helping them out."

Again, thank you. :)

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Comment by Darkehaven on February 27, 2010 at 6:40am: I am glad that you managed to turn things around like that. I wish you the best in your journey of self actualization. As for those friends that you mentioned, If that can't support you in your pursuit of happiness and a better life, then they are not friends at all.

Comment by Willem Toerien on February 24, 2010 at 1:09am: Thanks guys. It's been almost a year since I started my journey. I did a lot of things to get out of my comfort zone. The one thing that I did and will never forget, is that I put on a skirt, a bra and stockings and went to a mall and asked every woman I see if they want to date me for about an hour long. :D After that, I couldn't care less about rejection. Meh, so what. I've also learned that I can't not be awesome. I feel so much more powerful in everything I do. I would go into a place, and I can just notice the women looking at me, and no, I don't really peacock. I just smile, walk up strait and walk slow and relaxed. If I see a woman that I want to talk to, I just go in and say "Hi". I'm more fun, more playful and way more confident than what I used to be. I was in another city last weekend, and I wanted to go out. I went out alone, made new friends, found a woman, ravished her and later her friend and the next day went out with the new people I made friends with.
The bad thing is, my old friends hate me now. :P Shame, they just want me back in my old comfort zone dating zero women so that they can feel better about themselves. I met other guys that was on the same path as I am, and these guys are really good with women and dating. They gave me the name State. haha
I am far from where I need to be and still need a lot more work to do.

Eros, it's worth it. No matter how rough it gets. No matter how hard it gets. The results is awesome. Really, it is.
Benhamin, you're right. I learned that routines should be like training wheels. Routines doesn't really matter. You can't ride a motorbike with bycicle training wheels. The best thing to work on is the fundamentals. Your core, your deep core, that's the place to work on.

But like I said, I still have lots more work to do. For example, I still have some insecurities that needs to be sorted out. I also need to get over my lazyness. I also need to handle my emotions more. But I'm getting there, slowly. :D

Enjoy guys, will keep let you know how it goes from time to time.

Comment by Eros on February 23, 2010 at 7:34pm: You got the right perspective on things, life's what you make of it. And from someone who is in the same situation you're at, and has been in the same situation you've been, I'd say you've made the best decision you can make, and that is to take control of your own life and future. So, keep going dude, and if you ever find yourself in South Florida let me know.

Comment by Benjamin Ying Ming Tan on September 15, 2009 at 4:08am: hey thats pretty inspirational man.. good on you.
just a heads up.. you may not want to blatantly use mystery's routines as they are on national television. but you seem to be focused on improving yourself, and i admire you for that. peace.

Comment by Willem Toerien on September 15, 2009 at 1:52am: Thanks man. It's been a while since I was on my journey. It's true what you've said. "In order to gain something, something else must die". I had to improve a lot of aspects in my life. I made my purpose to improve and help those wants it. I'm glad to hear you are doing good. It's always a pleasure to see someone finding their happiness. Man, "getting it" on the age of 26-27, just tells me that you're the type of person that isn't going to allow fate to rule your life.

Comment by Todd of Vh1's The Pick Up Artist 2 on September 8, 2009 at 8:24pm: Those are deep waters, friend. Don't get too down on yourself... I was 26 and still a virgin and that turned out to be the best year of my life... till I turned 27 and this one is shaping up to be even better. Every minute is another chance to turn it all around. You can't drastically improve one aspect of your life without having that same change trickle down into all the other pieces of your world.

Keep at it, the journey is a grand one.