Fun's Experiment : Date #1

Hookay. So. Here's de earf. And I know what your thinking... that there's a pretty good earf right? wrong.


Actually... it's a pretty freaking FUN earf!

So date #1. As planned, Starbucks at 9. I order a grande white chocolate mocha.

I was told he'd be wearing his glasses as he didn't have his new contacts, so I walk in and survey the room.

There's two guys in glasses. Since his profile pic he is sans glasses I can't tell which guy he might be.

One guy is sitting in one of the comfy chairs, next to a girl.

The other is alone looking over some papers on the other side of the room.

I'm wearing my AMAZING jeans from AE, and my work shirt (black, tight, talent logo on front as I'm coming from work, as told my date) and a well fitted black blazer and heels.

He's 5'7... I'm 5'9. I wore my heels anyways. They make me pretty and happy and make my ass look fab.

I digress.

Since no one jumps up at the sight of me I decide to sit thinking maybe he's not there yet.

I grab out my phone and start deleting texts to kill time then I get a call from him and I turn around and comfy chair man is apparently my man.

I greet him, I motion for him to come sit at my table, he gets his drink, I comment on his jeans, how similar they are to my best friends, ask where he got them, banter as we wait for his drink, etc.

He comes and sits down, and whoa... for the first few minutes I am [I]COMPLETELY[/I] thrown off by his glasses... he didn't mention that they were terrible thick frames for his face shape and when I say coke bottle rims... I mean it. I wondered if I would get dizzy just trying to look him in the eye.

Once getting over the glasses I take in the rest of his outfit... big ugly work shoes, light washed jeans (that my best GAY friend used to wear in 11th grade) and a blue button down striped shirt that could have used an iron.

That and a leather jacket that overwhelmed his frame.

From a peacocking standpoint... this guy was PURE AFC.

On to conversation.

It was alright. Not stellar, things talked about are given points, followed by why for ease of analysis by my fellow PUA's.

We chatted about how much it sucks to move back to buffalo and realize all your friends have moved or had kids and gotten married. (+1) Common stuff

We talked about our jobs, he is starting to get to be miserable with his... (-1) I like ambitious guys happy with their jobs, and excited to be there

I found out he lives with his parents. (-2) How am I supposed to go back to his place and let him have some FUN?:D

He's working towards his dream job with some soccer thingy (+1) Shows some drive.

He likes to go downtown (+1) Can hang out.

Hates the road I live off of from getting a speeding ticket (+1) Just because it makes me smile.

Listened to me about my job and asked appropriate follow up questions (+2)
Listening is good, and good questions prove this.

Him telling me about how he dated two Kelly's at once one in Buffalo one in Kentucky (0) Player can't hate another player!

Discussing recent movies seen (+1) He said he wants someone to see movies with other than his mom... ohhh... maybe yeah... I'm gonna change this... (0) ... neutral

His stories being somewhat long and roundabout (-1) Guys, if you're going to tell me a story, don't go off on tangents... My attention then wandered back to how many bottles of coke I would have to stack to get that bad of a prescription for lenses.

So le grand total for conversation at this point = 2 points

It's been about an hour now, and I can sense conversation pausing awkward moments arising, so I decide to inform him of my time constraint so I can leave him wanting more.

At this point he changes his sitting position from a laid back open position to a forward facing position, and now I can finally freaking see his eyes better.. haha.

and then I think he attempted kino by touching his big shoe to my leg... then again the little tables at starbucks are little... but there was 0 kino to this point... and I wasn't exactly attracted to him at this point so I never initiated... I'm looking for friends and guys to date, I figure they will sort themselves accordingly.

So I eject at 10:15ish... I had discussed with him that I'm a busy workaholic before, citing that and writing a course description before tmw... and here's his only move that made me give him any extra points.

Fun- Sorry I have to cut this short.
AFCish- It's okay. You can make it up to me sometime.
Fun- Ohhhh... Maybe... We'll see. If you're lucky I'll take you to see that movie Role Models with me... :p

Pre-community I would've stayed till close dealing with awkward pauses for the rest of the hour till starbucks closed, and have made some form of plan for next time...

Now, keep in mind we already have exchanged numbers via PoF (BTW they always just offer theirs to me first *grin*)

So I said my maybe comment in a fun, playful *we'll have to see* way.

Suggestions on what I should've ended with are welcome.

I got up shook his hand and peaced.

Date #2 tmw.... with a friend of a friend met once before, jealousy comedy line not in place as he can't meet early enough for comedy... so starbucks again tmw at 9.

I'll keep you posted!

Comments welcomed!



~Fun:D