More on Misunderstood Mystery #2: Wait 7 Days Before Calling A Girl?

This episode we tackled the myth that you should wait a week before calling a girl. Most people wait at least 3 days, and some guys will wait up to two weeks! The reason most guys wait to call is because the rule of thumb is to not seem too eager or desperate, but this doesn't necessarily translate into waiting 4 days. PLEASE don't go calling her six times the same day you get her number (Ahhh . . . stalker!!!), but you certainly don't have to put it off all week either. Waiting 1 to 3 days to call a girl is ideal. Contrary to what you may have heard, if you do it right, you can call a girl the day after and she will LOVE it! The right way is based primarily on how you obtained her phone number in the first place.

The right way to do it is to make a good connection with her and excite her about seeing you again. If you have a nice connection, then she will be looking forward to your call and will think it's great that you called her the next day. It shows her that she is on your mind so she will be flattered, and it also shows her that you are not a flake. You are confident and you like her so why play games and act semi-disinterested? Let her know you like her and compliment her by calling right away. What you say when you call is a whole other blog, but the bottom line when calling a girl to ask her out is: HAVE A PLAN!!! I can't stand it when a guy calls and doesn't have a plan and we go back and forth talking about what we should do. Call her with a couple of options in mind and go from there. You can definitely listen to her opinions on what she wants to do, but hopefully you will have already gotten an idea as to what she may be interested in at your first meeting.

Once I met a bodyguard who seemed really cool and I was looking forward to getting together with him. He called after about 2 weeks and left a really nice message about how he had been out of town on work . . . supposedly (I guess he was just really really "busy" ha ha). But if you are interested in some one and you are going out of town you should touch base so that you are fresh in their mind when you come back. They might look forward to meeting you even more because they can't see you right away, but if you don't get in touch within a few days it is bad news! The bodyguard guy who seemed very cool called me after being away for 2 weeks and when I heard his message I barely remembered who he was. Not that he was forgettable --he was actually quite rad-- but it's just that a lot can happen in 2 weeks : )!!! Needless to say I didn't return his call because I figured "why bother" for 3 reasons: 1) Our nice connection was lost because a first-meeting impression like that can only last for so long . . . if we were to get together after that we would have had to start from scratch. That great first impression was lost because it wasn't fresh in my mind. 2) He is obviously quite busy with work and if not work, then he has some unknown something he needs to take care of (other relationship, other women, perhaps drama, baggage, etc.). And 3) If he liked me, then why would he wait so long to get a hold of me? If he really liked me, then he would have called sooner. Of course women don't make a conscious list like this . . . all of these thoughts subconsciously run through their heads in a second and the result is NO callback!!! Sooo . . . in the end, I just plain didn't bother and maybe that guy wondered why I never called him back. Alas . . . we could have been great!

Another thing to keep in mind is that if YOU are attracted to this girl, she may very well have other suitors so the sooner you get in there the better!!!

This is a quick crash course on the subject but hopefully it is helpful! If you have any additional questions or just plain gossip, feel free to blog on the site, comment in the forum, or e-mail me directly on PickupTara.com!!! Thanks for watching and I'll see you soon!!!

Love,
Tara