How to build genuine Inner Game or Confidence

"As one thinks one becomes." King Solomon

"It takes thirty days to form a habit" Unknown

The most crucial aspect of pickup or any kind of interactions is confidence. You may wonder why some guys seem to pull off the direct approach flawlessly and consistently. Charisma is confidence.

The first step is to write down ten things you want to become. In the begining simple and general ones are fine and as you grow more accustomed to mind programming you can add specific ones and even statements about how others view you.

1) I am always confident in any situation
2) I am a master pick up artist

Those are a couple of general ones. Now after you have your list. You need to read them to yourself slowly and try to visualize the goal. Picture yourself being the life of the party or one of your uber moments. Say them into a mirror. Do this twice a day for a month. This will do two things, one form a new habit and two start programing your subconscious to think and behave this way.

Throughout the day whenever you feel a negative thought such as "I am scared to talk to that girl." Replace it with a mantra such as "I am fearless when talking to strangers."

Also if you want to expediate the process whenever you have down time, recite your affiramtions.

This works on everyone I have ever had the expereience to work with on.

After awhile you will notice that you are not giving power to negative thoughts and they are automatically replaced with positve ones.

I constantly use about 50 affirmations and have been doing this for years. It is automatic. I have reprogrammed my mind.

After you get some base ones established into a mantra you can add some "how others see me" ones such as:

1) People are drawn towards my confidence and charisma.
2) I make people feel safe and feel good about themselves.

I also went a step further and downloaded some karaoke music of popular songs I like and recited 4 mins of me saying my affirmations. This is a great way to go to bed or to work out. As an added bonus whenever you hear that song....wow... you get jazzed up it's kind of like the anchor point that has been talked about on various venuisian art boards.

People will notice your confidence. Your posture, speech and actions will all match that of a confident positive guy.

A couple of good books to read regarding mind programming are:

"You can be happy no matter what--- By RIchard Carlson
"The serenity principle"---- By Joseph Bailey

These techniques work with people suffering from depression as well.

Eventually while you are acting as if or rather believing as if you will notice such a remarkable success that you will be that cool confident person.

You can also add in ones for physical health and appearance such as:

1) I enjoy exercising every day.
2) I bike 10 miles a day.

This stuff works and to be honest all social dynamics aside is all you need to succeed and excel in any situation.

I urge anyone struggling with confidence to do this. The problem most people have is they give up in a couple of weeks or do it half assed. Ten minuets a day is all you really need. After years of doing it I rarely have a negative though and is the sole reason why I am fearless in any approach.


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