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Do White Girls Like Asian Guys?
Hi.
Please don't answer this question with the generic "it depends on the girl," because although yes, it really does vary from person to person, such social generalizations often do exist within our society and therefore can be given a more thoughtful analysis than "it depends on the individual".
Anyway, so I'm an asian guy, and I grew up in predominantly white neighborhoods. I'm what you call a "twinkie". However, even being the twinkie that I am, I always had this underlying sense of racial insecurity when it came to white girls.
'Do they like me?' I would ask myself. 'My shoulders aren't as broad, and my eyes aren't blue,' I would tell myself. And this insecurity went on subconsciously until I got to college. I was chilling in one of the dorm cafes with some friends when I overheard the conversation of two really hot white girls. One of them said something along the lines of, "Man I really want to date one of those hot asian guys!" Ding ding ding! Now these weren't just some regular girls. And they weren't those japanese anime-manga-cosplay-sushi-addict weirdos either! They were two regular, socially normal, super hot white girls! Hot white girls that were down to date a twinkie like me! ^ _ ^
And this continued throughout my college career. I promoted for clubs for two years and saw much of the social spectrum - well mostly within nightlife anyway. I found that it wasn't that uncommon for a normal hot white girl to be into an asian guy! So I can't help but wonder...why aren't there more of these couples out there? Is it a cultural thing? Are asian guys too shy? Did I coincidentally run into the few white girls on earth that like asian boys? What's the deal yo?
Please don't answer this question with the generic "it depends on the girl," because although yes, it really does vary from person to person, such social generalizations often do exist within our society and therefore can be given a more thoughtful analysis than "it depends on the individual".
Anyway, so I'm an asian guy, and I grew up in predominantly white neighborhoods. I'm what you call a "twinkie". However, even being the twinkie that I am, I always had this underlying sense of racial insecurity when it came to white girls.
'Do they like me?' I would ask myself. 'My shoulders aren't as broad, and my eyes aren't blue,' I would tell myself. And this insecurity went on subconsciously until I got to college. I was chilling in one of the dorm cafes with some friends when I overheard the conversation of two really hot white girls. One of them said something along the lines of, "Man I really want to date one of those hot asian guys!" Ding ding ding! Now these weren't just some regular girls. And they weren't those japanese anime-manga-cosplay-sushi-addict weirdos either! They were two regular, socially normal, super hot white girls! Hot white girls that were down to date a twinkie like me! ^ _ ^
And this continued throughout my college career. I promoted for clubs for two years and saw much of the social spectrum - well mostly within nightlife anyway. I found that it wasn't that uncommon for a normal hot white girl to be into an asian guy! So I can't help but wonder...why aren't there more of these couples out there? Is it a cultural thing? Are asian guys too shy? Did I coincidentally run into the few white girls on earth that like asian boys? What's the deal yo?
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Permalink Reply by Lindsay on -
Hi. I signed up for the website just so I could respond to this.
I'm a "normal white girl". I grew up in a predominantly white culture all my life. Only since going to college and getting associated into the rich, diverse asian cultures have I really ever even hung out with another culture. Let me tell you, I LOVE Thai boys, Hong Kong, Korean................. But I noticed something very quickly. I've rarely seen an asian girl with a white boy, but I've never seen an asian boy with a white girl.
I can understand~ I began to realize how lazy, slobbish, ignorant and embarrassing white people (generally) are. But it really sucks. I think the Asian boys think I'm just like all the others. LOL, I was actually so shocked to find this article--- I always thought Asians dated within their own culture and that was that. So maybe there's hope for a cute nice white girl like myself..............
Seriously, if none talk to me because they're just shy, that'd make my day.. :)
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Permalink Reply by Jason on -
You signed up just to reply? I guess we're destined to be friends, then (on pickuptara.com haha)!
Yea, I guess a part of it is the narrow exposure you get to other cultures and whatnot before college in most smaller/less diverse secondary schools. And being korean and having seen some of how other "fob" koreans interact I think there is some truth in asians dating within their own culture. It's a mindset stemming off the whole 'close-minded aspect of asian culture' thing, and I'm quite often ashamed to be korean for it - though I primarily just consider myself "American".
Oh yea but the reason I'm responding...I just noticed how you called white people lazy and slobbish and ignorant and I found it funny hahaha. All the different ethnic groups have an ugly side huh? White people are slobbish and trashy. Black people are brutus and barbaric. Them hispies are slimey and greasy. And those asians are goofy and asexual. But it really took me until college to see the beauty in all the races! 'Asians are so goofy-looking. I wish I didn't look asian' I used to tell myself. But then I looked in the mirror and realized that when done right, you can still get a fine specimen like me! ^ _ ^
By the way, my first love was a white girl that was way different from me. She and I had different social circles, different lifestyles, different families, etc, but I couldn't help myself because she was so charming and beautiful and I forced her to go out with me ahahaha. I actually watched The Notebook the other day and it reminded me of me and her. But anyway, my point is that maybe you could always...you know like..force yourself onto one of those cute asian boys if you like them cause most of them are pretty shy and xenophobic. Who knows, love might blossom out of it :)
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Permalink Reply by Kaay on -
dude kudos to the asexual thing lol its hilarious over here in india lol and this place is the most asexual place alive i tell u .. its seems they only develop the u know wat after marriage or something lol
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Permalink Reply by Trance on -
I also signed up for the website just to respond to this thread, hehe. :)
Lindsay: "Seriously, if none talk to me because they're just shy, that'd make my day.. :)"
Lindsay, that is absolutely correct for the overwhelming majority of Asian-American males. It's not that they don't like white women or don't want to talk to white women, they are simply shy. Also, as we all know, it's extremely difficult to break out of one's comfort zones.
Many (not all) Asian-Americans are born to immigrant parents who are science/technology/medicine types, and the father simply isn't the "alpha male" type. Even more so, often times (as in my case), the parents push the kids into the best schools, professions, etc. at the expense of learning social skills for dating ("Get good career! Girl come later!"). This is part of the problem.
Many Asian-American males also suffer from bad inner game, i.e. "white girls would never like a guy like me", "everybody makes fun of me", "everybody thinks my dick is small", etc. all that asinine stuff. Hollywood stereotypes of Asian males don't help either. In these movies, they are portrayed as funny, emasculated, asexual creatures. Look at the big Asian "stars" in Hollywood movies: Jackie Chan and Jet Li. Remember Jet Li in "The One"? In the movie, his character has a hot white wife, and there was a romantic component, but they NEVER have his character kiss his wife in the entire movie! In fact, have you ever seen any Asian get to kiss the girl in any Hollywood movie? Nope. Which is hilarious considering how much of a horndog Jackie Chan is in real life...
Interestingly, you will see plenty of big-time alpha males in Asia. It's rare to see a true Asian-American alpha male.
So there you have it. Biggest reason why you don't see as many Asian male/white female pairs is lack of confidence from many Asian-American males, which obliterates attraction. It's an unfortunate reason why some Asian-American females would rather date outside their own race! Also, it's not hard-wired into most females to make the first move....
Jason: I am a big-time twinkie myself, so I can relate. Thanks to the seduction community, there are now plenty of Asian-American PUA's with really, really formidable skill. We are out there. Race is no longer an issue.
You ask: "Do white girls like Asian guys?". The answer is yes. However, if you were to ask "Would most white girls ever want to date an Asian guy?", then the answer is not as straightforward. Many white girls haven't dated Asian guys, NOT because they DON'T want to, but rather because they simply haven't been hit on by an Asian guy, haven't been charmed by an Asian guy, etc.!
So, my brother, we can change these perceptions! I hope this helps.
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Permalink Reply by Johnny S on
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I signed up just to reply to this post :)
Do white girls like Asian guys?
I'm asian and the past 3 serious girlfriends I've had have all been white. The past dozen girls i've hooked up with or dated casually have all been white. And almost all of them had never dated an asian guy before. I always ask why, because i've always been curious why you don't see many asian guy/white girl couples, and the general consensus was more or less "because asian guys don't hit on me."
I'm average looking and i've pulled some beautiful white girls :)
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Permalink Reply by Gnostos on -
I advise either playing up the stereotypes, or becoming so unique and confident they can't say no and they will ask you out. My mom is Romanian; Romania is the birth place of what we call the "vampire". When Twilight came out I saw my chance and I took it. I hate the book and the movie, but it was a god-send.
All I'm saying is use your strengths. Build those and the flaws won't matter as much.
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Permalink Reply by tarafriend on -
You really hit the bullseye. I really agree with you. Most of the time stereotypes create negative vibes but the player can use them to his advantage. For example if you are Indian(yeah Indians also come under category of Asians, I guess another stereotype) ask something related to kamasutra or yoga or some psychic kinda stuff (that will make it new opener too). But if you comes out confident you don't leave space for her to think about it. Every girl from any culture comes with two boobs, one brain, one heart and 1-giana so play the game with confidence and you will win everytime.
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