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Being yourself. Being Constructive.

Alright. here's my first discussion. I'm in a bit of a rush but I wanted to share some ideas or talk a little about being yourself to get the ball rolling.

been gamin or w/e for quite sometime now and at this point in time, I would like (as a personal goal of mine) to get more women coming up to me and talking.

Im pretty confident and extroverted but Im getting tired of being bored with my results so Ive decided to try something new.

It sounds silly but I got a friend who's really good at getting women to come up to him without doing anything. Mostly in club/ bar scenes that is. Ive seen it in action well over 50 times. Hes not like me at all tho. Hes got an introverted and real quiet kind of a game. Hes My best friend. And hes been this introverted guy from the moment I met him years ago. Ive got my way of attracting people as an extrovert and personable guy. and hes got his way. But his way seems so much more....effective (in light of attracting women that is) in either case Its ridiculous and I would like to know how to do it with my personality. Is that even possible? I honestly cant tell

So my problem is, my personality is very extroverted and friendly and fun. Im taking a page from my freinds book and trying to get woman to come to me by doing nothing but sitting there and walking around with the right glow of course ( I know it sounds crazy on paper but ive seen it happen SO many times and im intrigued)

Ive been reading alot about Body language, nonverbal communication, and chemistry between people, inner game and just positive thinking and feeling and Im actively practicing; been talking way less and being a bit more of a watcher......aaaaand Its not working out so well for me on attracting women. and now my other friends say its impossible since Im not introverted. I just dont have the personality for it. (which Im not fully disagreeing with however....)

So, The confilct is I don't know how to feel about just "being myself" and hoping things will change. Or trying to actually see things through and learn this skill of attracting woman to me.
Am I just going against my grain? should I just forget about getting woman to talk to me and do the thing Ive always done? Is there a gem of some sort in being introverted that I cant see yet cause Im to results based? Is it just more innergame and self understanding? is being or practicing a bit of introvert-ism (is that a word?) actually constructive for me? blarg.

gah this discussion is a bit of a mess. But i gotta go to work soon. hopefully Ill get some responses.
Enjoy.

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Permalink Reply by L.A. Tripp on May 19, 2009 at 3:30pm: I think you shouldn't go against your natural personality. However, even being extroverted you can still have girls come to you. I'm extroverted and am usually the center of the party myself, and I have girls come to me at times as well. One thing about it is, if you're having a blast in your own world and with your friends, the girls that are bolder will be more likely to come and want to join what you have going on. Therefore they come to you.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Ace Leeon on May 19, 2009 at 10:10pm: You bring a great point up. the attraction thing has happened this way before. I tend to liven the party myself when i get there and get all sorts of people talkin. However its seems so rare for a girl will just walk up to me and be like "HI". Where as my friend sits there and brings in alot more attention. hmmmmmmmmmmm

I am in Japan tho. where outspoken anybody, especially women, are quite scarce. So maybe I'm not catching clues to open girls in my vicinity.But I think your right on with just having a blast in my own world. The whole not caring thing seems to be ringing again with this topic. this stuff is so fun and interesting sometimes its ridiculous.
Thanks for your reply man, its appreciated.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Gnostos on May 20, 2009 at 5:58pm: I agree with Tripp. Birds fly. Fish swim. Use what works for you, and get out of your head. The purpose of the game is first social interaction and second to maybe meet some one special. Just go with your strengths, and don't try to be something you are not.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Ace Leeon on May 20, 2009 at 9:04pm: I see.
yeah. spending to much time in the head is sending off alot of strange messages thus far.

So, what is your take on learning how other people "game" because your interested in how they work or see some possible growth from that particular style. In my case. I think there is some real strength and growth in taking some "introverted" characteristics. I.e a good listener or giving more people the time to talk or just laying back and enjoying the atmospere.
I ask cause I feel like I may come on a little strong with my personality (really freindly, passionate, fun) and that is why Im getting the results im getting.
look forward to your replies. thanks again.; ▶ Reply to This