Attraction starts before you ever open your mouth

And that holds true for BOTH parties. Attraction starts . . . AND stops . . . before you ever open your mouth.

Uttering words simply makes that attraction spike . . . or drop.

How is that possible?

Let's start . . . from the start.

Guys decide whether they are attracted to a girl initially just from looking at her. Is she hot or not? Girls also decide if they are attracted to a guy from looking at him. Is he hot? Is he confident?

Do you see the common thread? Both sexes decide before a word is spoken whether they are initially attracted to someone of the opposite sex. Therefore, opening your mouth only serves to seal . . . or destroy that initial perception. Which road do you choose?

Alright, attraction . . .

Guys, not so subtly, check out a girl to see how hot she is. If he's got friends around, he'll even discuss her hot or not level with them. In this process he is already attracted to her and deciding whether he is more or less attracted to her. Yes, he is deciding. Now, some of his decision is automatic based on his initial personal perception of her hot or not scale in his own mind. The more he checks her out, the more this is amplified or crushed. He will watch things like her eyes, her hair, her smile, her general attitude with others she's with, how confident she appears to be.

Girls, very subtly, check out a guy to see how hot . . . AND confident he is. Yes, confidence, or the lack of, is a huge determining factor in a girl's eyes. In fact, normally only if a guy is very confident will the guy even see the girl checking him out, because it's at that point that she purposely lets him see. Or . . . a very confident guy is normally much more observant and will catch onto the girl's subtle signals.

You see, the girl is watching this guy's body language. Watching how comfortable he is with himself, how he interacts with his friends. Does he lead his friends or follow? Is he the center of attention or does he fade into the background? Is he afraid to step out and be in front or does he eagerly step out?

When a girl is this confident, she's considered aggressive. For some guys, this is a good thing, for others it's not. Most girls realize this and only those that really don't care what people think will be this brave.

When a guy is this confident, it's VERY attractive to almost all girls. The girl wants the leader. Most guys aren't so worried about the girl being a leader among her piers, just that she's attractive in his eyes.

So, you see, attraction starts, and stops, before a word is ever spoken from either side. Once your mouth is opened, it only serves to seal . . . or shatter that initial perception. You need to make sure your putting off a confident vibe before you speak, and that your words back up that confidence.

You put those two things together . . . and an avalanche of possibilities will open up to you.